Better

I am better. Better in the fact that I don't seem to be as stressed. No eye twitching anyway.

We meet with the photgrapher on Sunday.

Co-worker is inconsequencial.

SIL2B is here and I'm really to busy to care. If I run into her at some point in the next week, I'll be cordial but that is all she gets. I am taking Mrs. Trade-off's advice and nothing emotional. No more amunition. Flying below the radar. I honestly don't think things will settle down until after the wedding mainly because of the attention it focuses on RM and myself. She is not the center of attention.

It's Friday and nothing could be better than it being Thursday again. I love Thursdays.

This weekend will bring hair cuts, trip to the flea market, the frame shop and several other errands that have been patiently waiting their turn. At least the laundry is caught up.

Stressed

My first question is...Why?
The next question is ...Why?
and my third question is Why?

So it's Why Why Why?

LW is descending tomorrow and staying through next Saturday. Again I ask why? Apparently, she is going to help her mother move stuff. Okayyy, that is why she was her for two months and she didn't do anything. It took me 10 minutes to make 3 phone calls to do what her mother had asked her to do when she arrived at Thanksgiving. RM and I moved some items for her last weekend. I suspect that the elder M has pitted us against the other. I don't need any help getting in trouble with LW. I am do that all one my own thankyouverymuch. (I suspect that LW and her mother are cut from the same cloth)

I'm trying to get a session together with the photographer the T suggested so we can get pictures for our save the date cards. That being said it is taking an act of congress to get anything done with RM. I am frustrated beyond belief. I asked for a budget and we have a tentative one for the wedding but RM doesn't like to spend money on the same things I do. It's not that I am a spendthrift, its that I see different things as priorities. His head is going to explode what I tell him what the photographer is going to cost for our wedding. This is the one thing I learned from my last wedding. You get what you pay for. I am not skimping on the photography because we will never get a chance to get these photos again.

I am also dealing with a not so pleasant person at work. There is always one isn't there? Her attitude sucks. I am "punished" for doing my job and it's starting to wear really thin. I found out today that there have been at least two people in the last year that have quit because of her. Great. Just great. When they hired me they told me that they hoped that I would turn things around behind the teller line. Now I know what they mean.

I know that the majority of what I am feeling right now is me and my hormones. I really hate it.

Oh and to top this whole week off, for whatever reason, when they changed my job grade at work, it killed my insurance, jacked up my vacation and I am sure there is more to be uncovered. I can say a lot about the company I work for but their software is proprietary and it sucks. So tomorrow I am going to get to spend a lot of time on the phone trying to straighten out what they messed up. Thanks, as if I don't have enough to do.

So I'll stop griping now. I feel better having let it out. Yelling at RM wasn't doing any good. Poor guy.

Not to mention that we are trying to get used to living with another. I have been on my own for 10 years and now...well I'm not. I have two extra puppy dogs I wasn't counting on and a SIL2B who won't stay where she belongs.

I guess I need to hit my knees to ask for strength. Yeah, that is what I will do, I'll give it to God because he is going to be up all night anyway.

Losing My Comments

For as long as Ihave had my blog, I have use Haloscan as the comment moderator. Haloscan will no longer be in existance by the 16th of this month so I am switching to Blogger comments. Here's hoping that it works!

Will it ever end?

I beginning to think not. I had stepped back from all things involving the SIL2B. I figured if I flew below the radar, then things would die down. Apparently not. RM and I awoke to this being posted on his FB page...

Dearest RM,

I have been quite concerned over the fracas between you, Aunt Murry and LW. I know all of you have been hurt and I think all of you are at fault for hurting each other.

I have attempted to work with LW on her behaviors/feelings on this issue. I felt I was making some progress until Aunt Murry blocked/unfriended LW. I understand Aunt Murry's feelings. I really do. But you and I both know that LW is not as strong as she portrays herself to be. I know she sometimes has a mean sense of humor...and so do you. That's okay. I still love you guys. But...still...it makes me sad.

So. I am going to try to continue working with LW on getting along better with Aunt Murry. And I would urge you to remember that LW adores you. She loves you more than anyone else ever has and anyone else ever will. I know this because I feel the same about Ronnie.

I don't want to be in the middle of this family crap. Please don't feel slighted. I just can't watch it happen anymore. I will be glad to see you when we all get together but when LW asks me "Did you see what RM wrote? Did you see what Aunt Murry wrote?" I will be glad to say "No, I didn't."

As I've told her...you three are walking a fine line here - one that is easily crossed. It gets ugly, fast.
Please be loyal to Aunt Murry, but kind to your sister.

Much love.

This was in response to a RM's friend request of SS. A quick check revealed that I had been unfriended by SS. Here is where the sarcasm font would be a great help. Oh the horror. I have been unfriended. Let me make every ones life miserable because one person unfriended me. Boo Freaking Hoo. My true friends know who and what I am about. So my first reaction to this was "How old are we???"

Anyway, so that you have the complete story (like you care to waste your time on my on going drama with the SIL2b) here is RM's response.

SS,

I appreciate your concern over what's been going on, but I have to say that it's old news and rehashing it is becoming tiresome.

The short version is that Aunt Murry asked LW not to involve her in some personal business, and LW ignored that request. It isn't a matter of not wanting to be friends with LW, it's that there are some things that we do not need to be involved in.

Aunt Murry and I have attempted to set boundaries with LW regarding our relationship, and again, she ignores those boundaries.

There's another point, too, that point being that LW tends to embellish things to the point of fabrication. Whatever she's told you about all this may or may not be accurate. You need to judge for yourself.

That leads to another, more serious issue. LW has no problem sharing other people's personal things with others. She's told me things about some of her friends that I believe they would be mortified to know I know about.

Again, I appreciate that you are concerned and want to help, but this is something that has been percolating for some time now. I apologize for you being pulled into it. I don't know if LW asked you to get involved or not, but I suspect that she did.

SS, Aunt Murry and I both adore you, and don't want our issues with LW's behavior to hurt our friendship. Aunt Murry and I will do our best not to involve you in this any further. It isn't fair to involve you in a family situation.

Despite what you may have heard, Aunt Murry does love LW, and she would like to have a good relationship with her, but some of LW's recent actions have made it difficult.

Again, SS, I appreciate that you are concerned and want to help, but I think you can now see that there's more to it than you have been led to believe.

I hope that this has not in any way hurt your feelings. If it did, I apologize, but these are things that needed to be said.

Much love in return,
RM

I am so tired of this.

I told RM that I was going to pull her outside by her hair and ask her just what it was that she wants from me. His response was that she will say "I don't know what you are talking about." At which point I will slap her and then tell her to leave me alone. It's a nice fantasy. And when did I get so violent?

I suppose that I am at fault for some of this. I have poked at her a couple of times on FB just to see how long it takes to get back to her. The answer is not long.

I am just trying to find someplace to put this so I can be done with it. I can't have it eating me up inside. There is nothing I can do about it. At least for the time being she has chosen to leave me alone.

Sorry to bore you with the soap opera. Any advice or admonishment would be welcomed.

Our Guests

I keep meaning to post these pictures of our little furry guests. Now is as good as time as ever!

This is Toto. He is named after that famous little dog from Kansas. He is very high spirited. We recently bought him a nylabone and you would have thought we gave him the world. He loves that thing. (Cooper is to the right)

This is Cooper. He doesn't like the flash (and really - who does?) He always looks so forlorn. He likes to give kisses and snuggle. He thinks he is a lap dog.

They have been our guests for about a week now and will stay until RM's mom feels comfortable getting around her house. I have a suspicion that they maybe here to stay. Time will tell.

It's gonna snow!

Great. They are predicting 6-12 inches with a little ice thrown in at the beginning. I am starting to hate Winter.

At the MIL2B's house the daffodils were trying to come up. I am sad for them. I wish I could tell them to fold up their little leaves and snuggle back in until it is truly Spring. Oh how I long for the warmth of the sun. Doesn't help that I suffer from season affective disorder too.

Here's a funny to start your day..I got up this morning and thought it was Thursday and was all in a panic. Then I realized it was just Wednesday and not Friday Eve. As a consolation prize, I get to have dinner with my friend T. Yay!

And that is all for now! Have a good day!

Hit and Run

• Sorry I've been MIA
• Started new job
• Way too much work for itty bitty pay
• Back hurts from standing all day
• Got a stomach virus
• Could not sit up for 24 hours without getting dizzy and nauseous
• Had a migraine too
• ALL the classic symptoms
• Yuck
• RM's mom is out of the hospital
• We still have two extra dogs at the house.
• Guess who is the boss
• It's not either one of the boys
• Still living out of a suit case
• Too much to do and not enough time to do it in
• Being sick did not help
• unpacking things as we need them
• first thing un-packed...the coffee pot
• I feel like I have no time
• RM's sister is still trying to pit once against the other
• At least she is at her home city instead of mine
• Missed happy hour on Friday
• It turned out to be a good thing as the boys needed to vent and I would have just gotten in the way
• It was the first weekend without the SIL2B in two months
• She does not understand the difference between sibling love and the love of a mate
• It's icky
• She ahs managed to piss off all that are closet to her
• How does someone do that?
• I never had this much trouble with my SIL.
• I really appreciate the one I have (Yes Bubby you can relay the compliment)
• We have a comfortable relatioship
• And for that I am very thankful
• Haven't spoken to my Mom in a week
• That's weird
• I'll call tonight.
• Not much else going on

Ready or Not

I got a call yesterday. I got the job with Commerce Tulsa so I am just transferring locations. They probably want me to start Tuesday.

I'm so tired I can't even make a joke about it. I couldn't sleep and then I got up way early. I know more later today.

Just a bunch of random stuff

• Or better known as a hit and run
• I've lost 18 lbs to date
• Think I am going to make size 14 by weddign day
• Makes it a little difficult to shop for a dress
• Have the colors picked out
• If you go the David's Bridal website the colors are Clover and Wisteria. But its a secret for just a little while longer. Shhhhh (Just look at the colors not the dress)
• I'm on prednisone for the case of wicked eczema that exploded due to all the recent stress
• Can't do a thing about it so I am just rolling with it
• I've been better about things
• Only 15 days until the end of my job
• I'm nervous that I won't find a new one
• Things are going well with RM
• Things have settled down with the SIL2b
• That's it for now.